July 28, 2004

Out!

A friend just disclosed Richie and me to four of my officemates. I was caught offguard by her seemingly innocent questions about us and whether Richie had already told her parents about us or not yet.

I feel angry about the whole situation, of her putting me on the spot, of her intervening with my affairs even though we happen to be friends and that she understands about all those lesbian matters, or so she said.

Maybe, what is even more infuriating about it is this friend's heterosexual presumptousness that she can "speak" for me and Richcie, that talking about it is just as routinary as office lunches. But no and I'm glad that I did not explain it to our four audience. The last thing that I want is to sound defensive and apologetic about anything.

For now, I just want to be angry. I don't even want her apology, should she offer it.

eyed at 9:17 PM

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July 18, 2004

being minority

I attended a recent forum on lesbian and gay rights advocacy. It was illuminating on certain aspects, such as on the need to broaden advocacies in the media, in the government. Still, just like in some women's forum, I felt "alienated" on the discussion. It just that I was hearing too many sub-texts that it seemed half of the participants were already on a different plane while the rest, including myself, were still wallowing in the basics. Beyond the issue of facilitating a forum, i think it is about attitude.

These groups need to make up their mind. They cannot expect to be understood and recognized if they remain esoteric. Of course they don't have to stop talking to themselves, BUT they also have to reach out to others. 

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The "minority" need to point out their being different to break the assumption of sameness and their right not to be treated diffently.   Some say this is the burden of being a "minority", of being different than the herd.

I say that is the wisdom of being not part of the majority.

eyed at 4:19 PM

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July 11, 2004

bertolt brecht

German 1898-1956.

In the dark times
Will there also be singing?
Yes, there will be singing
About the dark times.

eyed at 3:20 PM

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